It seems like so many are reaching out to be acknowledged, validated and loved. We all need to feel love, be it the love of family, friends, peers or a significant person. We all want to feel special, like our existence is important to others and to the world. We have a never ending desire to feel it, sense it or find it. The important thing to realize is that we need more than anything, to find our sense of who and what we are, and what our place is in the universe. Sometimes it takes a lifetime, a long time or sends us on an endless quest of looking for a significant person to share our life with in order to feel some sort of deep connection. On our journey, we either chose to exist or live our lives. We also make a lot of choices or live like an addict looking for a fix. Are we really finding what really matters?
I am no exception to the rule; I grew up in a land of fairy tales waiting for Prince Charming. I thought he would rescue me and take me away and love me with boundless passion and protect me from the bad things out in the world. Oh my, was I hallucinating. Did I actually believe such nonsense? To a certain extent most women are brought up to be princesses. I do not know who to blame, Disneyland? Hollywood?
Our parents, in trying to protect us gave us the impression that life was so wonderful. We grew up in a delusional head space for sure. Life is not the fairy-tale we expected. We had totally unrealistic expectations of what sharing our life would be.
I also find that society, the advertising, fashion and movie industries to be instrumental in reinforcing the fact that most women are just Barbie Dolls. They are just for show, or use, and not really showing that many of us are intelligent, sophisticated, entrepreneurial and just plain amazing human beings. I have met and interviewed many women who are so educated and accomplished that frankly I am just wowed by them.
We are at a time in history when we should not be undervalued. Many of us are evolving and represent more than the image portrayed by society and the cultures in which we live.. We need to learn to respect ourselves and our planet and make better choices as global citizens. We need as women, to take a stand . What message are we sending our children and young women? We need to set an example for our young women in respecting ourselves and the world we live in.