We are all brought up to fit into our male and female roles and places in society. Our families give of list of do’s and don’ts and we are reminded all the time as we grow up of what is appropriate. However, times have changed and we have, and one of the things I have studied all my life is human relationships and our roles. This is a world where we have to stop judging and be happy for people who are adults, and in a relationship, be they older with younger and vice versa and same sex. I am as an aware adult tired of judgments, and just want people to be happy for those who have found someone special to share their life with, be it part time or full time.

Let’s face it; there are various interpretations out there into what exactly a cougar is besides a mature woman. Now it is important to say that Cougars are individuals as well, with different wants and needs, and although similar in some ways they are basically unique individuals. Cougars share the desire to be in relationships, be they casual or serious but in what one would call open relationships. They sometimes co-habitat, however are more likely to be living on their own. They thrive on spontaneity and enjoy their lives to the fullest. They are not traditional in that they dislike to be classed as older and refuse to become frumpy and dress like a typical older woman. After all, the most important aspect of being a cougar is their attitude which is about enjoying life and feeling as young as possible all the time. A cougar looks after herself in every way, she enjoys being sensual and feeling sexy and dresses like it. She is proud of who she is, in fact, by this time, she really knows who she is as a person and appreciates and celebrates her maturity. Cougars love their femininity and do their best to look like a woman who celebrates life and every moment.

There are various books on Cougars and a series on TV, as well as Cougar websites but they do not always share the same opinion or age groups, and sometimes one gets the impression it is all about sex. One has to remember, intimacy is only one aspect of a relationship and having a younger man does not mean he is that young! Although I must admit my former younger man was decades younger and in his 30’s and very mature for his age. I never expected to actually find someone that much younger who had the maturity and intelligence to make the relationship work. Boy, have I been surprised. Who knows, we took it day-to-day, week-to-week with no expectations. I like my independence and he needed his and we spent time together when we had the time to. He appreciated my femininity, intelligence and sense of humour. We did have lots of laughs and lots to talk about and it was nice to have someone who actually listened to what you had to say and also was interested in many things. By and far I have found that many mature men were not as open and had fixated ideas about what a woman should do, think and be.

We have all, for the most part been brought up and raised in traditional family roles and we as a species seem to prefer to be in boxes. Frankly I feel we are here for a purpose, and as a human are here to evolve not stay stagnant and remain in rigid roles. Having grown up in a very rigid strict background it was extremely difficult as an adult to shed the patterns and beliefs and become who I was meant to be. I challenged all my beliefs and changed my life and I feel so free and evolved, and yes, I prefer a younger man who is open to growing as a person, and can keep up with my energy. I feel ageless and it is an amazing feeling of freedom and pure joy to be a real evolved feminine cougar.